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Post by edwardjh on Jan 28, 2009 17:50:22 GMT -5
If there is one thing that I truly don't understand is when the 'phobes say that being gay/lesbian/bisexual is a choice. While I admit, there may be a couple of cases where this is true, but on the whole, this is not true at all.
Why do people feel qualified to make such an assumption? Only people who belong to the LGBT community could possibly make such a statement (and have it hold any weight).
Granted, the acts that follow ARE a "choice" (you could abstain if you so desired), but in not acting upon such feelings there are some serious physiological that could occur. So really, it isn't that much of a choice either.
Sometimes I just don't get people when they make those sorts of comments. Thoughts?
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Post by Trublu on Jan 28, 2009 19:42:53 GMT -5
I agree entirely, and wonder also why people assume themselves to be qualified to talk about it, when they themselves are not gay.
My main point, though I do not wish it to be this way, is why would I choose this life for myself? Currently, glbtq people are treated horrifically, even in a country which boasts "freedom and justice for all". Why would I choose to be treated that way? I wouldn't is the answer, simply for the fact that it is human nature to stray away from being hurt.
Course, the real answer for me is that I chose to be gay about as much as someone chooses to have their skin color, their nose, or anything else. It's not like, as babies, we sit in the womb and push buttons for what we would like. I no more choose to fall in love with someone than anyone else does.
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Post by theKyra ღ on Jan 29, 2009 11:14:30 GMT -5
Yeah, I chose to be confused about my orientation. Just like I chose to have brown hair.
No. You don't choose to be gay/lesbian/bisexual. Do you choose to be straight? I don't think so. Do you choose to find some people attractive over others? Not likely. My point is, honestly, some people need to take a look around and learn something once in awhile.
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Post by edwardjh on Jan 29, 2009 12:24:11 GMT -5
Currently, glbtq people are treated horrifically, even in a country which boasts "freedom and justice for all". Why would I choose to be treated that way? I wouldn't is the answer, simply for the fact that it is human nature to stray away from being hurt. Funny you should mention that actually, as it's a counter-argument I often use when people have the audacity to try and tell me that I chose my "lifestyle". I use lifestyle in that context as to be honest, I really don't see any difference apart from whom you find attractive. |
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Post by Terry on Jan 31, 2009 8:59:12 GMT -5
I think that being gay or lesbian, or straight for that matter, is not a choice one can make. Acting on the desires one have, however, is. And I think many people who claim that homosexuality is a choice, are more 'upset' about the choice we make. It is common for the combined society to try to control and conform its members to a certain way of life, and there will always be people who are upset when anyone tries to follow their heart and not their head.
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Post by austen on Feb 7, 2009 18:57:23 GMT -5
I hate it when people assume that we have a choice.
When I hear someone say that I say "Oh, so tell me about the day you decided to be straight"
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Post by Seirei on Feb 25, 2009 1:58:25 GMT -5
I can't stand it when some ignorant phobe tries to sit there and say we have a choice to be the way we are. I like what theKyra said, and I am going to ask them that from now on. We have no more choice over whether we're gay or not, same as they have no choice over being straight.
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Post by edwardjh on Feb 25, 2009 17:54:16 GMT -5
Exactly. The only "choice" belief I have any tolerance for is the "subconscious choice" argument. I don't agree with it, but I can tolerate it.
The "conscious choice" argument I have no tolerance for whatsoever and just lose it when people try to actually make it.
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Post by ozanzone on Oct 8, 2011 4:12:06 GMT -5
i have just told my fokes im gay. and have moved out. looking to make new friends
ozanzone@hotmail.com
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Post by senyondo on Nov 27, 2011 7:00:21 GMT -5
YEAH IT’S A CHOICE why? Like an adult person chose to smoke or drink?, he/she has choice on this, the right to choose your religion? Or non-religion? The right to choose between Samsung and Sony mobile phones? The right to choose gasoline, or electricity to cook? The right to choose blue jeans or black? The right to choose Democrat, Republican or any other political party? The right to send your kids to public or private schools? Either way.
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Post by arturolovesmen on Dec 12, 2011 19:04:12 GMT -5
I hate it when people assume that we have a choice. When I hear someone say that I say "Oh, so tell me about the day you decided to be straight" I know right it's terrible. |
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Post by waqas on Nov 24, 2012 16:09:07 GMT -5
any one frien ship with me
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